On Thursday Night Karen and I went to a Japanese restaurant and shared two entrees, Sukyaki and Tempura, We realized that it would have been fine to just share the Sukyaki and that we both ordered the Tempura for some sort of emotional comfort food eating. I was aware of stopping eating however when I felt complete. Interestingly I didn’t feel any of the compulsion of the previous night to leave pieces of tempura or sukyaki on a shared plate. I was conscious of eating a few bites past my needs. I am aware of adding a new word to my theory of MODERATION and that word is RESTRAINT. In order to practice moderation I must learn restraint. I believe restraint is not about depriving, stopping or editing out any thing. Instead it feels like a valve on a hose that has the same amount of water coming to the valve and I have the ability to adjust what comes out the other end of the hose more fluidly and completely.
Friday night was a large celebratory dinner with the whole tribe and a few others at a nice restaurant. The conversation was flying around and it was interesting, funny and jumping from neighbor to neighbor. I had a delicious lamb dinner with three pieces of lamb, some au gratin potatoes and some greens. I had a couple moments of consciousness early on in the meal, where I tasted the food and I even had a moment when I think my observer self saw that I was satisfied and I could have chosen to stop eating or drinking wine. However on this particular evening the observer self was completely drown out by all the other conversation and the habits took over and before long I was looking down at a clean plate with no memory of eating the last half of the dinner.
Saturday night the five of us that were on the design team were joined by Sabrina at Boca Steaks again for a “cluck down” dinner. I actually felt back on the moderation program with Karen and split an entree and felt quite satisfied with it and had a couple bites of desert and felt satisfied with that as well and managed to hold a lively conversation while staying conscious around the food. I notice it definitely is a helpful structure to split an entree even when eating with a bunch of folks.
Last night Karen and I went out for sushi with Rick Tamlyn and we ordered 4 rolls for the 3 of us and I did the ordering from my past experience with ordering sushi for folks. Rick is an excellent example of moderation in his eating and I did notice that I had more pieces of sushi then either Karen or Rick. I didn’t need it and I felt some of the same feelings from the first night with Karen. I felt a kind of responsibility for the poor uneaten sushi on the plate and that someone had better pop that delicious morsel in their mouth and since no one else was that someone should be me. What a load of utter crapola.
So the big learnings and take aways for me here are that my observer knows and I need to keep empowering him to see and make the call. I need to also be aware of restraint as a practice in addition to moderation. That restraint actually serves moderation. I also learned that I can indeed stay conscious of what I am eating and drinking while I am in animated conversation and that there are additional challenges to face.