Then it happened, we were in the parking lot outside REI sitting in the car with one of us helping the other step out of the pit and on to dry firm land when the conversation dove under the surface of the pits and the mountains and the valleys and into some of the core issues that are the magma that create all those pits and mountains in the first place. Man oh man if we can keep our eyes on that prize as we fall into those pits and scramble up those mountains we can begin to fall and scramble less and start to enjoy what we create together much much more. It is such a relief to realize that there is something, some tectonic plate shifting that has always gone on under the surface and that all we need to do is be able to go down together to those plates and do some magic on them so that they fuse into one plate that is stable and solid and able to support a world of all sorts of differences and creative disagreements. We can stand on that solid earth and have complete confidence in our own world view and complete openness and ability to receive the others point of view without needing to protect, defend, judge, make wrong or right, or to nag, manipulate, guilt trip, dictate, dominate or act in a passive aggressive way to get “our way”. With that solid ground we can passionately disagree and not take it personally, we can find exciting and synergistic new solutions and directions to problems and issues that in the past would send us scrambling or falling.
This is exciting. Now let’s keep at it. The pits and the mountains will be there for a bit as we dive beneath them, our habit will be to fall or scramble and we have to keep digging down underneath NO MATTER WHAT. The magic is down there.