Getting up and heading to the pool is feeling much more natural and, dare I say it, part of my life now. I usually get an errand or two in while I am in town and then come home and take a shower, have some breakfast and meditate (not necessarily in that order) and then come up here and write a bit (except for yesterday, when I did a whole bunch of chores and errands and skipped the sitting at the computer part- which is probably a good practice to get into at least once a week anyway).
I am going to try to do an experiment today here in this blog entry that I am writing on a Sunday. Sunday is always a pretty low volume day in terms of readers, because most of you have lives that actually want something else of you on a Sunday then sitting around and checking into my blog, good for you. So here is the experiment; last week when I was at CTI having an interesting conversation with the sales team about curiosity, the goddess of computer networks and websites visited me and asked me to make an entry or two to the CTI blog while Karen was away at Black Lodge. I thought that would be hard as I had all these other writing commitments I had made to mySelf and others already. She said maybe they would be able to combine in some way. I was skeptical because this blog is really designed as a way for me to grow my consciousness and CTI’s blog is supposed to be used to keep pointing the conversation of co-active coaching in the world. One blog is designed to look inwards and one is designed to look outwards. So off I skeptically went, only of course my little mind started working on what ifs, could I really write something that was both? Then I let my consciousness grow to include all that was going on that Thursday. I was having another day of consciousness and integration in my program and I was down at CTI having a great conversation about curiosity and while I was in the meeting the entire staff at CTI put up balloons and got a cake out to wish me a happy birthday. I felt like a kid with all these great smiling faces around me singing happy birthday and balloons falling from the ceiling. Sure I could write about something.Curiosity – The fountain of youth. What’s the difference between the walking dead adults that many of us are in our day to day lives and the bursting with aliveness, unstoppable until they fall over in a heap, 3 year olds? Curiosity. What’s the difference between a conversation with a client or a customer that is the same old same old and an alive, vital and successful call with that same person? You guessed it already, probably, because our minds are set up like that. They leap ahead and put the answer there that experience has shown us will in all probability be there, no need for curiosity when it is already known. Every time we do that, every time we make an assumption or create a belief or knowing that something will happen or someone will be a certain way we remove all possibility for wonder and surprise and aliveness. And yet it is so automatic for us in fact this knowing what will happen and who will be this way or that way actually serves us in many many ways. It also kills much of our ability to be in relationship with who or what is truly in front of us. We end up being in relationship with all of our assumptions and beliefs and knowings about things and people instead of with the thing or person that is right there in front of us. When curiosity dies so does our ability to truly be in relationship with another. Without curiosity we end up aging, alone and bitterly smart about the way of the world. If we are able to truly and deeply reawaken our genuine curiosity we are headed down a road that is filled with vitality, aliveness, youthful spirit, intimacy and authentic connection with others.
So how do we reactivate our curiosity? Good question. One way is to live in a universe of questions, where you don’t always have the answer. Another way is to live in a universe where you aren’t attached to the answers you have because there may be a better one in the next moment. Another way is to tell the truth to yourself and to those you are in relationships with when you are in the midst of assumptions and the rut of knowing what is coming next, tell on yourself, smile and ask what you missed while you were in the middle of knowing everything. You know my acting teacher Bill Esper said it best to me years ago, he was talking about actors and I know that it applies to all of us human beings, he said:
“A great actor(human) is fascinated with EVERYTHING.”
Imagine walking around life being completely fascinated by it. Imagine walking around life in wonder with all that you see, touch, hear, smell and taste. Captured by the question as to the real nature of that person in front of you or that piece of food on your plate or that tree by the side of the road or that same old building that you have passed a bazillion times on your way to work. To truly return to that childlike awe and wonder that we knew when we were 3 with the world we live in now. Now that is Curiosity. Curious about how curious you are?